Am I a Runner?


When I was 16 one of my best friends ran the London Marathon, it was my first contact with endurance running. That medal he brought back was like an emulate, giving him legendary status around school. In that instant I knew I wanted to be a runner, even though I was to do nothing about it for the next eleven years.

But how do you define a runner?

When I first started running I always thought to myself; I’ll be a runner when I finish a marathon.

I believed that simple act of enduring for 26.2 miles would make me a runner but when I finished the London Marathon in 2016, I didn’t feel like one. It was because I hadn’t run the whole way, I had to walk large parts. I felt like a fraud. Using others to measure your success, especially in running, is always going to shade your glory. Finishing a marathon or any race is a huge achievement but by comparing myself to others I felt like failure.

After that race my definition shifted; I’ll be a runner when I run a sub two hour half marathon.

My first ever half marathon was October 2015 and I finished just shy of three hours, I thought if I could run a half marathon without stopping and with strength I’d be a runner in my own right. Ten months, eight half marathons and three marathons later I clocked that sub two hour time (1:59:30 to be exact) at the Cheltenham Half Marathon and it was then I started to feel confident calling myself a runner to strangers.

And yet I still carried fear of judgement.

I’m not built like a runner, I’m not going to win any trophies or break any records. I’ll always finish in the middle or near the back of the pack, never lead it and when I do events with my friends I’m usually last of them. When you think of a runner you picture Forest Gump, Mo Farah or Roger Bannister not someone like me. So when I’m struggling with my training or when my depression slips it’s harrowing claws through my self confidence I think; I’ll be a runner when I look like a runner. 

I’ve lost six stone since I laced up my shoes late one night and trampled out for that kilometre run/walk. I simply got up from the vegetive state I was in and pushed my ideological idea of self-limitation and it’s what still makes me get out the door today. Hearing the sound of my own footprints behind me as I surpass myself is the greatest feeling, however, when I look back to that day I see more strength in that running because every step was a struggle. Every run since I know I surpass what that version of me was capable of and yet looking back I was a runner even from that very first day because I went out and tried.

So am I a runner? Hell yes. Are you? 

Well, whenever I’m asked ‘am I a runner?’ by someone I’ll always answer if you run, you’re a runner. You’re part of our gang, let me teach you the secret handshake. The running community has cult level welcoming skills and is awe-inspiringly supportive so every other runner will agree that if you want to be a runner you already are one. If you ever doubt that just look around next time you’re at a Parkrun, 10k or Marathon, every person there, whether they be leading or last, will have questioned their running credentials at one time or another. What makes us runners is that we go out there and try. 

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16 thoughts on “Am I a Runner?

  1. cat h bradley says:

    I would never hold another person to the standard I hold myself–much less could qualify them as a runner. I wonder what it is about the nature of running that makes us all this way–that makes it this thing we are not sure we are worthy of being called. I think I’m over it now. I’m a fucking runner for sure. But i TOTALLY get this. Great post!

  2. Gill says:

    I love thes blogs, they’re fab. I hadn’t realised where you’d started from….and I guess we all start somewhere…but losing 6 stone and improving your mental health is a huge huge achievement, apart from all the races you’ve done. Well done you

    More blogs ,longer blogs please 🙂

    • The Morning Coffee Run says:

      Thank you Gill, that really very kind. I’m aiming to do more long posts in the future so I’m glad you are after more of those. If you want to read more about how I get started, read my about page as that has a lot more about when I got started. Out of interest what subjects would you like me to write about?

      • Kathy says:

        I think this too especially at the 10k I did last week when I was only about 2k in when the leaders were heading back towards us. But……. what a great feeling when I was on the loop back and saw so many people who’d not yet reached half way. It was a lightbulb moment for me.

  3. Alexandre Fagundes says:

    You are definitely a runner, man! Very inspiring blog, thanks, now I am about to get out and do that 10k recovery (ran a half marathon yesterday), is that passion and strength that make us runners.

  4. lar2001 says:

    My first marathon was Chicago last year. I finished in 7 hours & 9 minutes. It’s taken me a long time to realize that I did do something special and amazing. Even knowing that, I really still struggle with thinking that I’m a real runner because I do end up walking huge chunks of races.

    I’m doing Chicago again this year and as I start to prepare my goal this year is to just have fun and to have joy in what I’m doing. 😊

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